A few months ago I made this post about dating and the tendency for Generation Y people to overshare their romantic endeavors on social media. In that post, I felt sorry for the people around my age who were in a relationship, overshare every moment, and ended up deleting them all once the relationship went downhill, or even worse, once it ended.
When I wrote that post, I was still living my life as a young, single woman. Now that I’m already in a relationship, how can I relate to the post I wrote in the past?
Thank goodness, so far I have succeeded in keeping my love life private. Even though Mr. C and I have agreed that we will not keep each other as a secret, I still think to post a shitload of our selfies to the public as something inappropriate and annoying. Yes, most of my friends here have known that I’m in a relationship, but only a few of them who knows his name and where he lives.
On the other hand, I know what it’s like to have the urge of posting your pictures with your S.O. on social media. Why? Because I feel it too! Every time we spend time together, there are times when I just want to grab my phone and post something about what we are doing at the moment. So far, I have managed to check-in only twice (I mask his identity, or I don’t tag his name at all) and posted our selfie once. A silly selfie, to be exact. And I don’t post them in public; I curate a particular list of people whom I can share the post with. Those are the people whom I consider dearest to me (such as my best friends for ages, or people who are close to me in the Netherlands).
So, how to overcome the urge of oversharing on social media, especially for new lovebirds? I only have one answer for this: the answer lies within yourself. You are the one who controls your social media account, not the opposite! For example, when you are going on a date with your partner, try to be present at the moment (read: not thinking to take out your phone and check-in or post a status about your whereabouts). Try to think that this is the moment only worth sharing between the two of you. I think that is a sweet gesture and by thinking about it, I manage to reduce the whim to post our activity online. Nowadays I am learning that being selfish with your partner (in an appropriate dosage) is OK! Not every moment is worth sharing, because most moments are made only to be cherished and remembered by both of you. Not every relationship is audience-worthy! Anyway, your love life is not a TV show, every day does not have to be a perfect day, so stop making it look like one!
If you are having struggles by oversharing on social media, I hope this will help you 🙂 I might sound pretty harsh at some points, but trust me, sugarcoated lies will not make your life better.
What about you? Do you have any tips on how to be low profile on social media? Let the world know by posting it on the comment section below.